What is this?

January 22, 2014

What is this?

Serious question “Why do women want the title of girlfriend so bad?”  Let me start this by stating, THE TITLE OF GIRLFRIEND WILL NOT STOP A MAN FROM DOING WHAT HE WANTS TO DO.  I don’t know who made the women who think this but it is a terrible way of thinking.

I was told it was to define the grey area. But, who is in the grey area? When I think of the grey area I think of the God awful question, “So, what is this?”  I’m going tell you what most men are thinking at the time, “What she mean what is this.” What it is called is FUN! So enjoy it while it is going good.  Why is it not possible just for two people to build without having that talk?  What answer are you looking for at that moment of the question?  The truth is the man is probably just as confused if not more confused as to “What is this?” than you.  As a man we do not mind the grey area because our goal is to be happy.  Once happiness is created from the relationship the man of your dreams will appear.  But that comes with making it through the so called “grey” area.  That area when you text or call and he don’t respond and it takes everything in you to not ask “Where were you?”  The truth is everybody deals with somebody else when you first meet them.  The key to that is setting yourself apart from that person.  Show the person you’re interested in a different side of life.  Introduce him to new things that he may not have tried.

I’ve said this a million times but the key is communication.  When I say communication I mean learn that person.  Learn his or her goals, what that person likes and dislikes.  Don’t force yourself on that person because that’s what most men are used to.  The thing that creates this so called “grey” area truly is sex.  Before sex you didn’t care what that man was doing to be honest.  But, if you the infamous question “What is this?” more than likely you’ve asked it before.  I’m sure that didn’t go the way you thought it would go.  You do know what they call people who keep trying the same thing and expecting a different result…INSANE!

Then I heard that women are seeking validation from the word Girlfriend.  That’s all you’re looking for? If that’s all you’re looking for then there are multiple ways to earn that other than a simple noun.  You really cannot think that by a man being your “Boyfriend” that it will stop him from cheating, flirting, etc.  You want to know what will make him stop doing the type of things no woman wants from her man. HIMSELF! One of my friends told me “I think that love is mainly a feeling. That’s creates a bigger plan. I think to be in love u have to “as a woman” let a man be a man in his own time without pressure.” Let that man be the man he is. It will prove to be your best option.  By doing this you will receive the opportunity to see who you’re getting involved with.  It will also save you a lot of hurt and heartache.  Once you get sold that dream your mind is assured on something that is not true.  A dream is defined as “an idea or vision that is created in your imagination and that is not real.” You don’t want to be the worlds “Girlfriend” do you?

Sig1


Inconsistency

September 24, 2013

Fellas, being inconsistent is defeating us. It all boils down to us not doing the things that we say. I can admit to failing at being consistent as well. But, I’m going to also state that it is not fair to the other person. There have been times where one day I am this nice person and trying to hold conversation with the opposite sex. But, 3 days later I am no where to be found. Why do we do that? Well there are a number a reasons that we do it. Sometimes we feel as if we are giving a little bit too much of ourselves. Sometimes we honestly just need some time to ourselves or don’t feel like communicating with others. The inconsistency comes when we do not give them the opportunity to know. So, to women, we are sending mixed signals. Once we are not on the same page, assumptions begin to happen and the truth is lost. Then comes the moment we decide to come back. Where we really go wrong is jumping right back into it as if we did not disappear for a few days. Then when she is acting funny or “brand new” we place all the blame on her.

I feel as everything can be compared to sports. So, fellas I will put this in perspective for you using sports. Peyton Manning is one of the greatest quaterbacks to ever play the the game of football. What separates Peyton Manning from the average quaterback is the fact he can read the defense and change the play at the line. He usually has to COMMUNICATE with the other players on the field. He tells each wide receiver what route he would like them to run. This is a very direct signal. If Peyton struggled at giving direct signals then his teamates would not be on the same page as him. If Peyton thinks his receiver is running a go route and the receiver runs an out route, the play is ruined. Not only that, it could possibly lead to a turnover. What makes Peyton so good is the signals he gives. He has been consistent in his career with giving signals and has made wide receivers look great because of it. Wide receivers around the NFL would love to play with Peyton because they know with him you get consistency.

You want to know why women lose interest so fast or doesn’t want to play for your team? The lack of consistency doesn’t give them the confidence that you’ll will be a winning team. Who wants to play for a losing team? The question I present to men is, when are we going to stop losing good women due to inconsistency? Being consistent is a very important quality to have. When women see consistency it allows the relationship to be consistent as well. Not only that, it consequently will bring other great qualities you need in a relationship. Being consistent brings trust! With trust the relationship can reach heights neither one of the partners thought was possible. I challenge men (including myself) to practice being consistent. We have to find a happy median with the opposite sex. Inconsistency has to stop being the reasoning women say they are losing interest. Lets stop allowing inconsistency to be such a determining factor of our relationship with the opposite sex. Especially when being consistent is actually not that hard to do…
Sig1


DEFEAT THE HEAT

June 22, 2012

Summer Relationship vs. Other Seasons

Everybody want to know why men seem to always get in relationships during all the seasons but summer.  It’s actually very simple.  There is just too much stuff to do during the summer to concentrate fully on the relationship.  In the other seasons, men concentrate fully on the relationship due to the fact it’s boring. Sorry to bust your bubble ladies but it’s not you.  But, give me a chance to help you ladies out on how to keep your man during the summer.

First step, is to not be extra when he begins to do different things that he normally didn’t do in the other seasons.  You’re going to notice that he’s beginning to go out with the fellas more and he might not call as he normally would.  But, do not panic.  This is to be expected.  It’s the summertime ladies.

Second step, is return the favor.  Now don’t go to hard but there is no point in you sitting in the house looking dumb in the face.  Go out with your homegirls too.  Believe me, if they have a boo, they are going through the same situation you are going through.

Third step, is not to let the situation get too out of hand on both ends.  Don’t let the man think it’s alright to just ignore the fact that he has changed since the summer hit.  How do you do that?  Simple, take control ladies.  I know its kind of hard for some of you to do so because you don’t know how to reach the happy median of crazy/worrisome compared to the (as my co worker calls it) nice, nasty.

Fourth step, FUCK THE SHIT OUT YOUR MATE! ON THE REGULAR BASIS! The one thing you don’t want to do is stop giving him some because it’s easy to cheat during the winter, fall and spring seasons. Just imagine how easy it is when women out here half naked and choosing!

But honestly ladies, the key is to take control.  Don’t be the crazy woman!  You do have the power of the p.u.s.s.y.  You just need to know how to use it.  Don’t lose the power of it by doing anything with it.    You know have to understand that in the summer things will be a little different.  But, you have to switch it up on your mate.  Keep everything new and excite him and I promise he will remain yours.  Don’t let the summer heat defeat you…


90 DAY RULE MY ASS

May 4, 2012

90 DAY RULE MY ASS

Ladies, do not attempt to think like a man! It is not in your best interest to do so. For example, what happens when two magnets of the same variable attract? They separate, and try everything possible not to link. Remember the old school statement? “Study long, Study wrong,” well this is definitely true in this situation. I cannot tell you women enough, we are simple! In the movie, they displayed a few situations, in what I like to call the “Man vs. Woman” tug of war. In this blog, I will touch on one of the situations that stuck out the most to me. Which was, the, so called “90 day rule.” Steve Harvey should be shot in the head for actually believing himself when he put that in his book and movie. I know you’ll are not thinking about waiting 90 days! Let’s break this down; 3 months=90 days=2160 hours=129,600 minutes=7,776,000 seconds=90 DAY RULE MY ASS!

You can’t be serious! If you are, then where did the exact number of 90 come from? Why not push it a whole 180? Or maybe a year! Let me share something with you about men. When a man meets a woman, he notices the physical. There is nothig wrong with that! Hell, females do the same thing. (Sidenote- Ladies, you know we can see you looking at our pants for a print right?) Once we get past the physical, it is already set in our head if we want to have sex with you or not. With a man, sex does not need an emotion. Honestly,you don’t have to talk!  We would still have sex, and we would be thankful to avoid the “After Talk.” One thing about most men, is we’re stubborn! If a man has it set in his head, “I’m a hit and quit it,” then a time limit you put on the yams will not stop him from quitting you on the 91st day of your 90 day theory. On the other hand, if you wait a week or two, and a man has it set that he really likes what he is dealing with, he is not going to leave because you let him hit too fast. Hell, it might help your chances of keeping him! Let’s be honest, even women are not trying to wait 90 days. But I can tell you this, if a man does wait 90 days, HE IS HAVING SEX WITH SOMEBODY ELSE! You really want to start your new situation like that?

Now do not get it twisted, I am not saying go out here and just be on some wild stuff.  I definitely am all for getting to know each other. I also will have to say ladies, you have to feel a guy out to know if he is going to be a hit it and quit it guy.  Most of the time, women set themselves up to let a man hit it and quit it.  Lets just eliminate the number 90.  All women have this “clock” in there head.  Most the time it is not an actual day.  It can be dates, how much she knows about the man, who she’s met in his life, etc.  I say this in all my blogs, its all about reaching the median.  Sex is important in relationships, however with a man all you really have to do is find that connection.  It might be sports, cars, exercising, etc.  In the movie she found the median of music with him and next thing you know he was falling without even knowing it.  Men will not tell you we’re falling for you but our actions show it.  Just be observant of the signs we as men give to let you know that we are beginning to fall.  No matter what a man says, we fall in love too…


How to please your woman…

April 1, 2012

How to please your woman…

Keeping your relationship healthy can not be that difficult.  We as men actually make it much more difficult then it has to be.  We just do dumb stuff that leads to us being in a hole too deep to get out of.  We lose site of what we did in the beginning to get our woman then we end up losing them.  There are 4 simple things that if you consistently do will better your chances of keeping your relationship healthy.  If you constantly make your woman laugh,  be honest with your woman, loyal to your woman, and give her the necessary quality time.  I guarantee you she will stick with you.

The initial recommendation is to make her laugh.  No matter who the person, everybody loves to laugh. Why wouldst you want to see your woman smile? A smile represents positivity.  So take a smile as you making your relationship positive.  I’m not saying be extra but do things that make your lady smile.  It’s simple as that.

The second thing is to be honest.  All women ask for honesty so give it to them.  I know how difficult how being honest can be in some situations but they asked for it so give it to them.  If you are doing what you are supposed to be doing in your relationship, then you wont have to worry about being honest because everything is on the table.  A woman’s mind is constantly in overdrive.  So your best bet is to give her nothing to think about.  For example; if she askes to see your cell phone then let her.  Questioning her motives provides her with incentive to question your truthfulness.  However, do not get it twisted.  If she sneaks in your phone that is disrespectful.  Best believe when you go to take a shower and she goes thru your phone and happens to not find anything, YOU WILL NOT KNOW.  When she ask you a question, please fellas just tell the truth.  More than likely she knows the answer to the question already.  She’s just testing to see if you are going to tell the truth.

LOYALTY! Loyalty nowadays is a lost trait amongst humans.  Not only in relationships but in general.  Loyalty is a difficult thing for people who are just starting a relationship.  When you’re beginning a relationship you also have a past and things that you have been loyal to before.  The best thing to do is to  sit down with yourself and do some pro’s vs. con’s.  You might have had a specific schedule or very open schedule when you were single but you are going to have to change that a little to reach the median in a relationship.  You have to be honest with yourself.  If it will bring negativity to the relationship, then it is something that can be put to the side.  If it is just one thing a woman wants from her partner, it is definitely TIME!  You also have to draw a line between your friends and your partner.  Often in relationships people don’t draw that line and that leaves no boundaries set.  Just because she does not state she is not receiving enough time, it is up to recognize.  Never, I mean never let your woman feel like your loyalty is not 100% to her.  If you really want to succeed in your relationship then loyalty is required.

Which brings me to my next point.  Quality time is required.  Time spent together is a necessity in a healthy relationship.  If you do not spend the necessary quality time with your partner then you will not be able to accurately know your partner.  Often in relationships people worry bout the big traits of there partner.  However, it’s the small things about your partner that you should know.  You should know things about her that a normal person in her life should not.  You will get to know those things due to consistent quality time.  A woman feels if you’re not spending time with her when you are free then who are you spending it with.  It might be that you are with the fellas just chillin’.  But in her head she’s thinking, “Why not me?”  Please take it from me, no woman likes playing second place.  Sure she might say “it’s cool” that you’re not with her but believe me she’s not happy.  Coming home over her crib after you are done with everything else will definitely bring up a red flag.  The question that will present itself is why don’t you want to spend time with your woman?

Fellas it’s time to stop playing around.  I have heard from several of men lately that they are tired of the single life.  My response is the same every time, we need to recognize what we are doing wrong for us not to be in a relationship.  You don’t have to announce it but i will for you.  It’s getting real boring entertaining multiple women.  Not only that it’s becoming difficult.  Especially when the women we be entertaining are all in the same boat going nowhere.  Life is about sharing it with someone you love.  Fellas lets begin working on ourselves in order to be fully prepared for when the day comes “SHE” presents herself.  That way we know for sure we can give 110% to her and never lose her…

 


How to please y…

April 1, 2012

How to please your woman…

Keeping your relationship healthy can not be that difficult.  We as men actually make it much more difficult then it has to be.  We just do dumb stuff that leads to us being in a hole too deep to get out of.  We lose site of what we did in the beginning to get our woman then we end up losing them.  There are 4 simple things that if you consistently do will better your chances of keeping your relationship healthy.  If you constantly make your woman laugh,  be honest with your woman, loyal to your woman, and give her the necessary quality time.  I guarantee you she will stick with you.

The initial recommendation is to make her laugh.  No matter who the person, everybody loves to laugh. Why wouldst you want to see your woman smile? A smile represents positivity.  So take a smile as you making your relationship positive.  I’m not saying be extra but do things that make your lady smile.  It’s simple as that.

The second thing is to be honest.  All women ask for honesty so give it to them.  I know how difficult how being honest can be in some situations but they asked for it so give it to them.  If you are doing what you are supposed to be doing in your relationship, then you wont have to worry about being honest because everything is on the table.  A woman’s mind is constantly in overdrive.  So your best bet is to give her nothing to think about.  For example; if she askes to see your cell phone then let her.  Questioning her motives provides her with incentive to question your truthfulness.  However, do not get it twisted.  If she sneaks in your phone that is disrespectful.  Best believe when you go to take a shower and she goes thru your phone and happens to not find anything, YOU WILL NOT KNOW.  When she ask you a question, please fellas just tell the truth.  More than likely she knows the answer to the question already.  She’s just testing to see if you are going to tell the truth.

LOYALTY! Loyalty nowadays is a lost trait amongst humans.  Not only in relationships but in general.  Loyalty is a difficult thing for people who are just starting a relationship.  When you’re beginning a relationship you also have a past and things that you have been loyal to before.  The best thing to do is to  sit down with yourself and do some pro’s vs. con’s.  You might have had a specific schedule or very open schedule when you were single but you are going to have to change that a little to reach the median in a relationship.  You have to be honest with yourself.  If it will bring negativity to the relationship, then it is something that can be put to the side.  If it is just one thing a woman wants from her partner, it is definitely TIME!  You also have to draw a line between your friends and your partner.  Often in relationships people don’t draw that line and that leaves no boundaries set.  Just because she does not state she is not receiving enough time, it is up to recognize.  Never, I mean never let your woman feel like your loyalty is not 100% to her.  If you really want to succeed in your relationship then loyalty is required.

Which brings me to my next point.  Quality time is required.  Time spent together is a necessity in a healthy relationship.  If you do not spend the necessary quality time with your partner then you will not be able to accurately know your partner.  Often in relationships people worry bout the big traits of there partner.  However, it’s the small things about your partner that you should know.  You should know things about her that a normal person in her life should not.  You will get to know those things due to consistent quality time.  A woman feels if you’re not spending time with her when you are free then who are you spending it with.  It might be that you are with the fellas just chillin’.  But in her head she’s thinking, “Why not me?”  Please take it from me, no woman likes playing second place.  Sure she might say “it’s cool” that you’re not with her but believe me she’s not happy.  Coming home over her crib after you are done with everything else will definitely bring up a red flag.  The question that will present itself is why don’t you want to spend time with your woman?

Fellas it’s time to stop playing around.  I have heard from several of men lately that they are tired of the single life.  My response is the same every time, we need to recognize what we are doing wrong for us not to be in a relationship.  You don’t have to announce it but i will for you.  It’s getting real boring entertaining multiple women.  Not only that it’s becoming difficult.  Especially when the women we be entertaining are all in the same boat going nowhere.  Life is about sharing it with someone you love.  Fellas lets begin working on ourselves in order to be fully prepared for when the day comes “SHE” presents herself.  That way we know for sure we can give 110% to her and never lose her…

 


October 18, 2011

Thirst!
 
On twitter, thirst was defined as such -thirst (v) – the continuation of pursuance despite previously failed attempts.  However the dictionary defines thirst as the physical condition resulting from this need, in any of various degrees: They almost died of thirst; or strong or eager desire; craving: a thirst for knowledge.  With that being said, what is the true meaning of thirst? 
 
On twitter, I constantly see women say a man is thirsty when he shows interest in her.  I raise the question, if a man is not “thirsty” or if he doesn’t show interest, then how will he know if he has a chance?  You know how many single GOOD women are just waiting for the right man to approach them?  It’s the main ones on twitter who say a man is thirsty that are single and screwing 5 of their followers.  So who’s thirsty now?  It is impossible to convince me a man is thirsty just because he is attracted to you.  
 
Twitter is somewhat like the club.  If a man notices your avi and likes what he sees, he has all the right to follow you.  You have the right to follow him back.  He then has the right to DM you.  But I guess that’s being thirsty.  Hell if you don’t want a man to try an get at you put a avi up of a fat ugly jank.
 
Now, I do understand when women say that men continue to try to holla at them although it has been SHOWN that you are not interested.  So with that being said maybe the distinction is wanted vs unwanted attention.  However many women say they tell men they aren’t interested, but most of you do not really state in the text/DM/phone call “I’M NOT INTERESTED” because you are scared he gone either go off or you gone hurt his feelings.  Well I don’t know about you all but my Mom told me never be a quitter lol.  It’s all a game.  It’s like you have to pretend not to like the jank to get attention and not be thirsty.  But, then you risk losing her to a man who is just parched and not “thirsty”…smdh. 
 
The truth of the matter is, women don’t know what the hell they want.  In the same hour you see these 2 different tweets:  “That n*%%a is thirsty” then 30 minutes later you see “I wish he would just show me some attention and not be with his friends.”  Look, you have to pick one.  We as men don’t know how to be 50% across the board.  Either you want us to be so called “Thirsty” or you don’t want attention. 
 
I know what women are going to say… “I want attention from the one I like.”  Well let me tell you something.  We don’t know if you like us or not.  Also, if we do have the thought that you like us I’m a tell you what aint gone happen…we will not be that subtweet “he” in “He is becoming thirsty.”  We as men have way too much pride to be involved in your shenanigans on twitter and having people looking us like we’re crazy. 
 
As for women, I feel like it is impossible for them to be thirsty.  When it comes to attraction, we as males and females are one in the same.  If you are attracted to a person, whether it be from a tweet, avi, facebook picture, I say go for it.  They can call you thirsty, however, how will you know if you have a chance if you don’t try.  With that being said…in the words of Dos Equis “STAY THIRSTY MY FRIENDS!”


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