Keep It 100

January 23, 2015

Fellas, BE THE BEST MAN YOU CAN BE FROM THE START OF MEETING A FEMALE! The consequences are major and not worth it.  I’m speaking as a person who has gone through it personally. I was not ready for a relationship but decided to string her along as if I knew I was. In return what I caused myself was a world of hurt and emptiness that can never be replaced.

Some guys are lucky and find that great, understanding woman who will allow mistakes and still give you multiple chances. Do not take this for granted…I repeat…DO NOT TAKE THIS FOR GRANTED! There is an old saying that “Once you are down you have no where to go but up.”  Well I’m here to tell you that statement is totally false and inaccurate. There are plenty of ways we dig our hole deeper and deeper until the point we can’t even see the light of day. Once you get to that point there is really nothing to can do but wait. While waiting, you will drive yourself crazy, if she is the one. Losing a good woman is something no man should want. To prevent that there are certain things that should be done…

  1. MAKE SURE SHE FEELS LIKE NOTHING ELSE MATTERS BUT HER! Make her number 1! This will take you a long way just following this rule. By following this rule everything else will fall into place as needed. When she calls, answer! When she wants to spend time, spend time! When she wants something and you can do it, DO IT! It’s as simple as that
  2. Cater to her! I know what some are going to say. That is a woman’s job. Times have changed drastically. Both male and female are working and paying bills. So everything else needs to be split as well. Cook for her sometimes! Back rubs and feet rubs go a long way. Clean up the crib. When she gets off simply tell her “get in the bed and relax, I got this!” Surprise her with random thoughts of kindness. This doesn’t mean gifts of monetary value. But, it doesn’t hurt to pop up at her job with some roses or if you’ll are going on a date (not the first one) surprise with flowers then as well. The element of surprise is your friend! Always keep her knowing something is coming but not knowing what it is!
  3. Effective communication! This is very important! In every relationship, you’re going to have disagreements. The key is not to argue but to discuss the disagreement. But, you have to go into the conversation OPEN minded! If you’re still mad about the situation then just simply tell her can we please talk about this at a later time (that goes for you ladies as well). There is nothing worst than discussing a topic with someone who is still mad at the situation. Effectively discuss the topic and come to a happy median.
  4. Last but not least, earn her trust and keep it! If you have fallen like I have done in the past, it can be very difficult to get but it is possible. The key is, if you earn it back, KEEP IT! Without the trust of your significant other everything else will fall out of place.

I could give you’ll rules for days to follow. But, with these 4 alone you will conquer a lot of the major issues relationships have (other than financial). Believe me, you do not want to lose the woman of your dreams due to something you have full control over…MAKING HER NUMBER 1!!!!


September 7, 2014

Football season

Ladies! I’m back and this time I’m here to help you out. All it takes is the will to have a peaceful household and relationship. I’m a break down a few things you can do to make football season work for you and your partner. Now this goes for women who like the great game of football and those who don’t also.

For my ladies who despise football season and pout around the house. Please stop that childish behavior and make it worth your while. Let me ask you this, how did you feel about Beyoncé’s performance at the vma’s? Well, that’s exactly how we feel about football. In every situation there is always a positive outcome that can me made for both parties. If you follow these simple steps I promise you happiness.

First things first, the games come on around 1pm each and every Sunday. So that’s gives you a decent window to prepare. Go to the grocery store and get a pack of chicken wing and a pack of beer. If this will be your first time doing this, don’t tell him what you doing. The element of surprise is key if you’re losing your football wife virginity. Now here’s the key, when the game is on please don’t get to asking allllllll them questions. That comes later. You serve your man that plate of food with a nice cold beer when the game starts. You sit down but not too close. This isn’t a redbox night. Relax and really watch the game. Hell fake it if you got to. So it’s halftime, ITS NOT TIME FOR QUESTIONS YET! If you’re wondering why I keep reiterating don’t ask questions. It’s due to the stories I personally have and countless others I’ve heard. They say no question is a dumb question but somebody lied. Some of the questions women ask about football just were of the level of a pre schooler. Back to the game, study the game, think about your questions. Now the game has ended, ask the questions and please make them of substance. Now you have the 4pm game. Don’t get restless, patience is a virtue. Believe me your time will come. Go mind your business and watch tv in the room. Go hang with your girls who hopefully did the first steps like you did. Now here’s the important part. You cannot text him when you’re out. Let him watch the game in peace. Text him round 7 and ask what he wants for dinner. Come home and make dinner and you’ll eat. I promise, depending on if his team is playing the night game, he will not make it thru that game. His tongue will become a paintbrush, your pussy the canvas, and he will attempt to paint Mona Lisa in your box…….Sig1

What is this?

January 22, 2014

What is this?

Serious question “Why do women want the title of girlfriend so bad?”  Let me start this by stating, THE TITLE OF GIRLFRIEND WILL NOT STOP A MAN FROM DOING WHAT HE WANTS TO DO.  I don’t know who made the women who think this but it is a terrible way of thinking.

I was told it was to define the grey area. But, who is in the grey area? When I think of the grey area I think of the God awful question, “So, what is this?”  I’m going tell you what most men are thinking at the time, “What she mean what is this.” What it is called is FUN! So enjoy it while it is going good.  Why is it not possible just for two people to build without having that talk?  What answer are you looking for at that moment of the question?  The truth is the man is probably just as confused if not more confused as to “What is this?” than you.  As a man we do not mind the grey area because our goal is to be happy.  Once happiness is created from the relationship the man of your dreams will appear.  But that comes with making it through the so called “grey” area.  That area when you text or call and he don’t respond and it takes everything in you to not ask “Where were you?”  The truth is everybody deals with somebody else when you first meet them.  The key to that is setting yourself apart from that person.  Show the person you’re interested in a different side of life.  Introduce him to new things that he may not have tried.

I’ve said this a million times but the key is communication.  When I say communication I mean learn that person.  Learn his or her goals, what that person likes and dislikes.  Don’t force yourself on that person because that’s what most men are used to.  The thing that creates this so called “grey” area truly is sex.  Before sex you didn’t care what that man was doing to be honest.  But, if you the infamous question “What is this?” more than likely you’ve asked it before.  I’m sure that didn’t go the way you thought it would go.  You do know what they call people who keep trying the same thing and expecting a different result…INSANE!

Then I heard that women are seeking validation from the word Girlfriend.  That’s all you’re looking for? If that’s all you’re looking for then there are multiple ways to earn that other than a simple noun.  You really cannot think that by a man being your “Boyfriend” that it will stop him from cheating, flirting, etc.  You want to know what will make him stop doing the type of things no woman wants from her man. HIMSELF! One of my friends told me “I think that love is mainly a feeling. That’s creates a bigger plan. I think to be in love u have to “as a woman” let a man be a man in his own time without pressure.” Let that man be the man he is. It will prove to be your best option.  By doing this you will receive the opportunity to see who you’re getting involved with.  It will also save you a lot of hurt and heartache.  Once you get sold that dream your mind is assured on something that is not true.  A dream is defined as “an idea or vision that is created in your imagination and that is not real.” You don’t want to be the worlds “Girlfriend” do you?



September 24, 2013

Fellas, being inconsistent is defeating us. It all boils down to us not doing the things that we say. I can admit to failing at being consistent as well. But, I’m going to also state that it is not fair to the other person. There have been times where one day I am this nice person and trying to hold conversation with the opposite sex. But, 3 days later I am no where to be found. Why do we do that? Well there are a number a reasons that we do it. Sometimes we feel as if we are giving a little bit too much of ourselves. Sometimes we honestly just need some time to ourselves or don’t feel like communicating with others. The inconsistency comes when we do not give them the opportunity to know. So, to women, we are sending mixed signals. Once we are not on the same page, assumptions begin to happen and the truth is lost. Then comes the moment we decide to come back. Where we really go wrong is jumping right back into it as if we did not disappear for a few days. Then when she is acting funny or “brand new” we place all the blame on her.

I feel as everything can be compared to sports. So, fellas I will put this in perspective for you using sports. Peyton Manning is one of the greatest quaterbacks to ever play the the game of football. What separates Peyton Manning from the average quaterback is the fact he can read the defense and change the play at the line. He usually has to COMMUNICATE with the other players on the field. He tells each wide receiver what route he would like them to run. This is a very direct signal. If Peyton struggled at giving direct signals then his teamates would not be on the same page as him. If Peyton thinks his receiver is running a go route and the receiver runs an out route, the play is ruined. Not only that, it could possibly lead to a turnover. What makes Peyton so good is the signals he gives. He has been consistent in his career with giving signals and has made wide receivers look great because of it. Wide receivers around the NFL would love to play with Peyton because they know with him you get consistency.

You want to know why women lose interest so fast or doesn’t want to play for your team? The lack of consistency doesn’t give them the confidence that you’ll will be a winning team. Who wants to play for a losing team? The question I present to men is, when are we going to stop losing good women due to inconsistency? Being consistent is a very important quality to have. When women see consistency it allows the relationship to be consistent as well. Not only that, it consequently will bring other great qualities you need in a relationship. Being consistent brings trust! With trust the relationship can reach heights neither one of the partners thought was possible. I challenge men (including myself) to practice being consistent. We have to find a happy median with the opposite sex. Inconsistency has to stop being the reasoning women say they are losing interest. Lets stop allowing inconsistency to be such a determining factor of our relationship with the opposite sex. Especially when being consistent is actually not that hard to do…


June 22, 2012

Summer Relationship vs. Other Seasons

Everybody want to know why men seem to always get in relationships during all the seasons but summer.  It’s actually very simple.  There is just too much stuff to do during the summer to concentrate fully on the relationship.  In the other seasons, men concentrate fully on the relationship due to the fact it’s boring. Sorry to bust your bubble ladies but it’s not you.  But, give me a chance to help you ladies out on how to keep your man during the summer.

First step, is to not be extra when he begins to do different things that he normally didn’t do in the other seasons.  You’re going to notice that he’s beginning to go out with the fellas more and he might not call as he normally would.  But, do not panic.  This is to be expected.  It’s the summertime ladies.

Second step, is return the favor.  Now don’t go to hard but there is no point in you sitting in the house looking dumb in the face.  Go out with your homegirls too.  Believe me, if they have a boo, they are going through the same situation you are going through.

Third step, is not to let the situation get too out of hand on both ends.  Don’t let the man think it’s alright to just ignore the fact that he has changed since the summer hit.  How do you do that?  Simple, take control ladies.  I know its kind of hard for some of you to do so because you don’t know how to reach the happy median of crazy/worrisome compared to the (as my co worker calls it) nice, nasty.

Fourth step, FUCK THE SHIT OUT YOUR MATE! ON THE REGULAR BASIS! The one thing you don’t want to do is stop giving him some because it’s easy to cheat during the winter, fall and spring seasons. Just imagine how easy it is when women out here half naked and choosing!

But honestly ladies, the key is to take control.  Don’t be the crazy woman!  You do have the power of the p.u.s.s.y.  You just need to know how to use it.  Don’t lose the power of it by doing anything with it.    You know have to understand that in the summer things will be a little different.  But, you have to switch it up on your mate.  Keep everything new and excite him and I promise he will remain yours.  Don’t let the summer heat defeat you…


May 4, 2012


Ladies, do not attempt to think like a man! It is not in your best interest to do so. For example, what happens when two magnets of the same variable attract? They separate, and try everything possible not to link. Remember the old school statement? “Study long, Study wrong,” well this is definitely true in this situation. I cannot tell you women enough, we are simple! In the movie, they displayed a few situations, in what I like to call the “Man vs. Woman” tug of war. In this blog, I will touch on one of the situations that stuck out the most to me. Which was, the, so called “90 day rule.” Steve Harvey should be shot in the head for actually believing himself when he put that in his book and movie. I know you’ll are not thinking about waiting 90 days! Let’s break this down; 3 months=90 days=2160 hours=129,600 minutes=7,776,000 seconds=90 DAY RULE MY ASS!

You can’t be serious! If you are, then where did the exact number of 90 come from? Why not push it a whole 180? Or maybe a year! Let me share something with you about men. When a man meets a woman, he notices the physical. There is nothig wrong with that! Hell, females do the same thing. (Sidenote- Ladies, you know we can see you looking at our pants for a print right?) Once we get past the physical, it is already set in our head if we want to have sex with you or not. With a man, sex does not need an emotion. Honestly,you don’t have to talk!  We would still have sex, and we would be thankful to avoid the “After Talk.” One thing about most men, is we’re stubborn! If a man has it set in his head, “I’m a hit and quit it,” then a time limit you put on the yams will not stop him from quitting you on the 91st day of your 90 day theory. On the other hand, if you wait a week or two, and a man has it set that he really likes what he is dealing with, he is not going to leave because you let him hit too fast. Hell, it might help your chances of keeping him! Let’s be honest, even women are not trying to wait 90 days. But I can tell you this, if a man does wait 90 days, HE IS HAVING SEX WITH SOMEBODY ELSE! You really want to start your new situation like that?

Now do not get it twisted, I am not saying go out here and just be on some wild stuff.  I definitely am all for getting to know each other. I also will have to say ladies, you have to feel a guy out to know if he is going to be a hit it and quit it guy.  Most of the time, women set themselves up to let a man hit it and quit it.  Lets just eliminate the number 90.  All women have this “clock” in there head.  Most the time it is not an actual day.  It can be dates, how much she knows about the man, who she’s met in his life, etc.  I say this in all my blogs, its all about reaching the median.  Sex is important in relationships, however with a man all you really have to do is find that connection.  It might be sports, cars, exercising, etc.  In the movie she found the median of music with him and next thing you know he was falling without even knowing it.  Men will not tell you we’re falling for you but our actions show it.  Just be observant of the signs we as men give to let you know that we are beginning to fall.  No matter what a man says, we fall in love too…

How to please your woman…

April 1, 2012

How to please your woman…

Keeping your relationship healthy can not be that difficult.  We as men actually make it much more difficult then it has to be.  We just do dumb stuff that leads to us being in a hole too deep to get out of.  We lose site of what we did in the beginning to get our woman then we end up losing them.  There are 4 simple things that if you consistently do will better your chances of keeping your relationship healthy.  If you constantly make your woman laugh,  be honest with your woman, loyal to your woman, and give her the necessary quality time.  I guarantee you she will stick with you.

The initial recommendation is to make her laugh.  No matter who the person, everybody loves to laugh. Why wouldst you want to see your woman smile? A smile represents positivity.  So take a smile as you making your relationship positive.  I’m not saying be extra but do things that make your lady smile.  It’s simple as that.

The second thing is to be honest.  All women ask for honesty so give it to them.  I know how difficult how being honest can be in some situations but they asked for it so give it to them.  If you are doing what you are supposed to be doing in your relationship, then you wont have to worry about being honest because everything is on the table.  A woman’s mind is constantly in overdrive.  So your best bet is to give her nothing to think about.  For example; if she askes to see your cell phone then let her.  Questioning her motives provides her with incentive to question your truthfulness.  However, do not get it twisted.  If she sneaks in your phone that is disrespectful.  Best believe when you go to take a shower and she goes thru your phone and happens to not find anything, YOU WILL NOT KNOW.  When she ask you a question, please fellas just tell the truth.  More than likely she knows the answer to the question already.  She’s just testing to see if you are going to tell the truth.

LOYALTY! Loyalty nowadays is a lost trait amongst humans.  Not only in relationships but in general.  Loyalty is a difficult thing for people who are just starting a relationship.  When you’re beginning a relationship you also have a past and things that you have been loyal to before.  The best thing to do is to  sit down with yourself and do some pro’s vs. con’s.  You might have had a specific schedule or very open schedule when you were single but you are going to have to change that a little to reach the median in a relationship.  You have to be honest with yourself.  If it will bring negativity to the relationship, then it is something that can be put to the side.  If it is just one thing a woman wants from her partner, it is definitely TIME!  You also have to draw a line between your friends and your partner.  Often in relationships people don’t draw that line and that leaves no boundaries set.  Just because she does not state she is not receiving enough time, it is up to recognize.  Never, I mean never let your woman feel like your loyalty is not 100% to her.  If you really want to succeed in your relationship then loyalty is required.

Which brings me to my next point.  Quality time is required.  Time spent together is a necessity in a healthy relationship.  If you do not spend the necessary quality time with your partner then you will not be able to accurately know your partner.  Often in relationships people worry bout the big traits of there partner.  However, it’s the small things about your partner that you should know.  You should know things about her that a normal person in her life should not.  You will get to know those things due to consistent quality time.  A woman feels if you’re not spending time with her when you are free then who are you spending it with.  It might be that you are with the fellas just chillin’.  But in her head she’s thinking, “Why not me?”  Please take it from me, no woman likes playing second place.  Sure she might say “it’s cool” that you’re not with her but believe me she’s not happy.  Coming home over her crib after you are done with everything else will definitely bring up a red flag.  The question that will present itself is why don’t you want to spend time with your woman?

Fellas it’s time to stop playing around.  I have heard from several of men lately that they are tired of the single life.  My response is the same every time, we need to recognize what we are doing wrong for us not to be in a relationship.  You don’t have to announce it but i will for you.  It’s getting real boring entertaining multiple women.  Not only that it’s becoming difficult.  Especially when the women we be entertaining are all in the same boat going nowhere.  Life is about sharing it with someone you love.  Fellas lets begin working on ourselves in order to be fully prepared for when the day comes “SHE” presents herself.  That way we know for sure we can give 110% to her and never lose her…



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