Judgmental Females

The other day a female associate had these negative statements to make towards strippers.  I was attentive to her comments, but during her judgmental rant I’m thinking to myself…does she know that I know she’s had sex with 4 people in my circle?  This happens to much in our community.  We are so quick to judge anothers without even knowing the person’s life.  This has to end in order for us as a whole to move onward and upward.  We cannot keep judging others and expect to be able to improve ourselves or our community. We need to stop focusing so much on the “faults” of others and spend more energy trying to correct our own.

But back to the stripper story…how is it possible to judge a person based on stripping?  It’s not like she’s a porn star and being paid to have sex on camera.  A stripper is just entertainment for men and women.  I hear from many women that strippers are hoe’s.  But how? Stripping is her job, not her hobby. She does it for money…not attention. And above all stripping doesn’t involve any sexual acts. If you do not know that person’s personal life, how is it possible for them to be a hoe. What bothers me the most about this situation is most people who judge others have a slight case of amnesia. But people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones!  If a stripper equates to a hoe, what if you have more sexual partners than a stripper?  What would that make you?

It happens every day with females.  Let me give you a few examples.  Just imagine a women judging you about your hairstyle and she has a lacefront.  There is no way you can judge that women about that.  Weight is another thing women judge each other on.  It’s so easy to judge a woman because she is fat, however you don’t know that her.  While that she maybe fat she could have the confidence of a millionaire. She could have a great job, great man, and great life, while you go home alone, unhappy and bathe in your low self-esteem.  It is also very easy for your judging to turn to hate.  For instance, I remember a lot of days on campus at VCU women looking down upon women for wearing heels on a weekday around campus.  Hearing the famous statement from women “Girl, she is doing too much.”  That’s not judging, that is just hating.  Or the famous hate from a single woman towards a female in a successful relationship.  The most confrontational is the expression of sexuality.  If a woman is confident enough to know her life and what she wants from a man it is considered being a hoe.  I’m not saying go announce it to everybody however if you’re doing the same thing as she is…HOW CAN YOU JUDGE?  I could go on for days with the things women judge each about.

The bottom line to this situation is you cannot judge a person you don’t know.  You have no clue what is going on in that person’s life or the person’s situation.  The famous quote “only God can judge me” should be reiterated to people every day.  What needs to happen is everyone focus on their own personal growth and confidence. Look in the mirror before you judge the stripper or big girl, or before you decide to come out of your mouth with a contradictory statement.  Also look at your flaws and instead of continuing to make excuses for them, do something to fix them.  Judging will get you nowhere in life.  However, making improvements to yourself can never harm anyone. We KNOW better…so let’s DO better!…

4 Responses to Judgmental Females

  1. Jimmy you have done it again! Yes strippers are judged unfair based on their occupation. All women have some form of insecurity, so to hide it they “strongly” judge others. Sad, but it is what it is.

  2. Brook says:

    — I think you’ve made a very good point in this article. I must admit, I was once guilty of judging strippers — but now that I know better, I stand corrected.

    I really enjoy reading your blog. Keep it up.

  3. Pynk says:

    This is awesome! I think that this should be posted somewhere for all to see. Especially the judgemental females who have no understanding that exotic dancing is a chosen PROFESSION. Let those ladies make their money… If you dont like it, dont entertain it… SIMPLE. I hate to see people speak about what they know very little about… Great BLOG.. Informative and Entertaining to say the least

  4. Lilia says:

    Actually, stripping does involve sexual acts. lap dancing involves a nearly naked women grinding to get a guy off. that’s a sexual act last time I checked. they are technically prostitutes. the only difference is it is legal.?? don know why! not to sound rude, but strippers are not entertainers! entertainers are classy TALENTED people like George Clooney, Oprah, Tyra Banks etc. you cannot even compare strippers to entertainers. thers just no way.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: