I’m a tell you the reason every man has been in Marvin’s Room somehow or someway. You have been hated on by another man, you have hated on the man that is now dating the one you lost or you’ve been drunk and did something you normally wouldn’t do.
Hated on by another man
No matter who you’re dealing with they have a past and have dealt with another person before you. Depending on how the break up went there is a 80% chance that her ex is not very pleased with her new relationship. The question I present it…Is it really hating? I honestly don’t think so. I would say it is a natural reaction. It could be compared to a reflex. You’re taught if a person hits you, you hit them back. Why in God’s green earth would you be excited for your ex being happy with another person. Especially when you’re… “Uh, cups of the XO, All my people been here, I see all of her friends here, Guess she don’t have the time to kick it no more.” Now, you can lie to me, but you cannot lie to yourself. When a breakup happens you begin to notice everything that you did not notice when you’ll was together. I don’t consider “hating”, an ex wanting his/her ex back. I consider it a natural reaction that love will cause you to display. Hate is a feeling towards a person you have no reason to dislike.
Hating on the man who stole your ex
Although it is a natural reaction towards losing the one that was once yours. Do not get it twisted and think that it is alright. The problem arises when you’ve reached the point where you’ve realized he/she is gone and you still “hating” on their new relationship. “I want to see you happy even if it isn’t with me” is easier said than done. Nobody, especially men, want to see a person they dealt with to deal with ANYBODY other than them. We don’t care how long the break up has been. The most difficult time is the mixed signals are being thrown out there such as… “F-ck that nigga that you love so bad, I know you still think about the times we had, I say f-ck that nigga that you think you found, And since you picked up I know he’s not around.” When you still try to remain friends with an ex and they are in a new relationship…in their face you try to act happy for them because they’re happy but deep down you’re feeling like “F-ck that nigga that you love so bad…” The friendship can be misconstrued as a mixed signal because even though you are pretending you let go you actually haven’t and every time you all talk, or text, or share a joke, deep down it gives you the false hope that they’ll see what they had and want you back. When these mixed signals are thrown it messes with people’s minds and goes in the category of selling dreams. This goes without saying…selling dreams is negative no matter how you view it. Dreams are a figment of your imagination and should never be involved in relationships. If it’s not reality then don’t mention it. Dreams in a relationship are equal if not greater than bad credit. Without credit of the words you are saying then you will not get the sale.
Drunken words are sober thoughts
The entire song seems to be all drunken words. Whenever you tell the person you’re dealing with “We threw a party, yeh we threw a party, Bitches came over, yeh, we threw a party, I was just calling cause they were just leaving, Talk to me please, don’t have much to believe in.” You are clearly drunk or desperate and begging for attention. This might catch the attention of a female who still have feelings but IF you’re dealing with a mature female she probably picked up the phone just to make sure you’re ok and will notice this cry for attention fast and end the conversation.
Most women SAY they want their man to be real. However, in all reality there is a such thing as WHEN KEEPING IT REAL GOES WRONG… “I need you right now, are you down to listen to me?, Too many drinks have been given to me, I got some women thats living off me, Paid for their flights and hotels I’m ashamed, Bet that you know them, I won’t say no names, After a while girl they all seem the same, I’ve had sex four times this week I’ll explain.” There is no way you can honestly think any woman is going to be ok with you telling her this. Oh yeah, but women want us to keep it real.
Men and women we have to be honest not only with one another but more importantly with ourselves. Everyone has jealous tendencies. In the era we live in, hating is a big problem amongst our age range. It is importance we recognize what hate is and what being a human being is. In conclusion, it is alright to show emotion. It is natural for us as humans to fall in and out of love. Let’s just stay away from doing it the crazy way… “Her white friend said “you niggas crazy”, I hope no-one heard that, I hope no-one heard that, Cause if they did, we gon be in some trouble”…