Are you ready to move on?
Moving on from a relationship can be a very difficult task. It’s not the physical capability to move on but the emotional. How do you just throw away all of your feelings for a person? Were you truly in love if you can do so? The answer is no, you were infatuated.
“Human behavior flows from three main sources: desire, emotion and knowledge” –Plato
The first two, desire and emotion, are the strongest of the 3 above mentioned towards human behavior. It usually leads to a person becoming vindictive. Acting on the feeling of wanting to be vindictive is not moving on. Being vindictive doesn’t erase your feelings. It may suppress them for the moment but they are still there.
The truth is you cannot move forward in another situation until your feelings are gone from your past. Some may force the “new” partner to make them forget but once again that is only temporary. I’ve attempted this strategy before and it only led to hurting the “new” person. Without giving yourself time to officially rid your mental of the feelings of your past you will not be able to give 100% to anybody. That is not fair to the “new” person but more importantly it is not fair to you.
The scary part is, more so then not, everybody that is single is still attached to a past situation. For example, I will speak about myself. I know for a fact that I’m still in love with my ex. I want to be with my ex and spend the rest of my life with her. Although on paper, yes I am single, in my mental I am not. The brain is way more powerful than your physical. I accept the fact that I am single physically and not mentally. If I allowed my physical form of being single control my decisions it would only lead to more confusion. Confusion is what you want to avoid in any situation. When I meet “new” people I initially express the fact that yes I am single but I’m still dealing with my past. This works for me to allow a clear understanding that I am not prepared to give 100% to anybody else right now. Until I clear my mental of the feelings I have for my ex, moving on is not an option.
This is the first time I’m writing in a first person format. I’ve attempted to move on and it has failed drastically at every attempt. That’s how I personally knew it was not time for me to move on. Time heals all, this is true, but what if I don’t want to be healed? I wrote about chasing your dreams for a friend of mine as a feature on her blog. It led me to think about exactly what I was typing. Nothing or nobody should stand in the way of your dream. I am a dream chaser and I will not stop until my dream is caught.
My strategy might not work for all. But, the fact remains; if you still are emotionally attached to the past then you cannot move forward to the future…